Old School vs. New School
I have been accused of being “Old School”. I am quite okay with it. Actually, I think of it as a compliment. I believe Old School people are traditionalists. We care about what people think and consider others when making decisions. We think big picture and long term. We are normally consistent, committed to routines (from which we rarely deviate), and punctual. Many times we are black and white. There is not always a “gray” to a situation and Old School people know this.
The opposite of Old School is what I call “New School”. Younger people tend to be New School as it is trendy and current. New School usually does as it pleases. New School prides itself on being rebelious, likes to draw attention to itself, and disregards the people it offends. New School can be a bit crude and outspoken. New School prides itself on being its own person—regardless.
New School people think Old School people are old fashioned, fuddy duddies. Old School people think New School people lack consideration of others, their social environment, and appropriate behavior.
I recently had an encounter with a neighbor who has a very sweet daughter with a nose ring. I spoke to her about some potential babysitting, but told her she would have to remove her nose ring around my children. She found my request offensive.
To me, babysitters are role models. I remember thinking my babysitters were so cool. I wanted to be just like them. I was not comfortable having a role model with a nose ring in my home in front of my very young children.
She obviously felt judged and perhaps I was judging her choice. I did not value her choice to put a hole in her nose. The truth of the matter is: If you deviate from the norm, you are going to be judged. Some will think what you have done is great and some will not. You have every right to do whatever you want to yourself, but you don’t have the right to expect everyone to accept and appreciate it.
My neighbor called me an elitist because I didn’t value her daughter’s choice. I don’t think I’m an elitist at all. Just Old School.
I spent 22 years in the corporate arena as an outside sales representative with 15 years in Broadcast Sales. I recognize the competitive advantage a person has when they respect etiquette and have received protocol training.